A strong relationship is based on many factors which true love, trust, understanding and mutual respect to name a few. Let’s not hide the fact that every relationship face some disagreements which lead to a feud and when not well handle, it weakened the relationship and slowly dig the grave of that relationship. We are made of love and love can overcome many things.
Keep in mind that this technique is for mature people but if you truly want to end conflict with your loved one here is what you need to do.
Step 1: PAUSE
Isn’t it that when you get angry to get hot, you feel like there is a fire burning inside your body, like a bomb which must blast to make you feel free.
Yes, that’s the time all the negativeness are rolling inside your mind, but let me tell you that “mind over matter” so let that fire down through a pause. Bring your attention to this moment, not the past, not the future but right now. Take 3 deep breaths and keep your attention on your In-breath and your Out-breath.
Step 2: HOLD EACH OTHER’S HAND
Approach your loved one and grab her/his hand for about 10 second. It is impossible to be mad if you’re holding hands. A study shows that participants are able to cope better with pain and discomfort when they were holding hand because the act of holding hand decrease the level of stress hormones like cortisol in their body
Embrace your loved one with a heart to heart hug. In fact doing this will bring up back the link between you and that’s what you are looking for.
Step 3: CLOSE YOUR EYES
As you embrace your loved one, close your eyes and take a deep breath. Match a tempo of your breath with their and become aware that you both are alive
Step 4: EMBRACE THE FUTURE
Now at that moment I want to think about where you and your loved one will be in 200 years from now. How does it feel to know that you and your loved one will one day be gone and forgotten? After about 20 seconds open your eyes, I guarantee you that you will see how precious it is to be alive. You are still here, your loved one too and you still have the opportunity to choose love.
Now ask yourself: Is what you were fighting about, really worth it ?